My brother has Narcissistic Personality Disorder. He does not have a doctor's diagnosis. Of course, because he's a narcissist and perfect.
Trump's election reminded me because of Trump's obvious NPD symptoms.
He's had problems since adolescence, but the problems became really obvious after he got home from the Navy.
He called me the day that he was relieved of duty in the Navy. He was drinking and said, "Hey, guess what? They're trying to kick me out of the Navy." He proceeded to talk about a log book that he was in charge of. He did not do his job, bad things happened, and they found that he had forged the log book. He was taken to a military base in South Carolina where the discharge took place and he had to be released to my mother. A while later, my mother and I drove to Ballston Spa, NY to pick move him home. He was drinking vodka and chasing his roommates around the outside of the house with a gun. He thought it was funny.
Today, he denies that any of this happened. His new story is that he was oversea on a protection detail for a Russian princess. There was a thrilling car chase, an accident, and he was in SC because of injuries from the accident.
Things never got better. He was always telling stories of fighting truckers in parking lots, rescuing rape victims, finding burglars in his house and beating them up, stopping smuggling rings... all while driving his truck.
He fakes memory loss when confronted or gas lights people.
The last story he spun was that he was in Japan, assisting the US Navy in clean up from the Fukushimi nuclear disaster. He claimed to have been there awhile and had bonded with a wandering 4yo orphan girl. He was going to adopt her.
I had overlooked Jon's bullshit for years, but this was ridiculous. I asked to see pictures. Any pictures. Of the child, of the work, of a subway sign, ANYTHING. He couldn't produce a single one. Then, suddenly he sent me a few and when I reverse searched them on Google, they were AP photos he'd cropped. I told him that he needed to get his shit together and stop the compulsive lying thing.
He didn't talk to me for awhile. Then, Ashley (his ex, whom he'd been horrible to) contacted me on Facebook one day to say that someone who'd randomly added her on FB was posting a death notice for Jon McLain.
I dove right into the bullshit. The profile was obviously a fake created by him and the profile picture was of a relatively unknown actor... unless you were a diehard fan of Charmed. It was an obvious headshot. When people asked for photos, he claimed that he was in the background of a bunch of construction photos. "Our guy, Jon McLain." It was such a bad, contradicting bundle of lies. I texted him and said flat out that he matched all the criteria for NPD and that he needed to take the entire profile down before our mother saw any of this nonesense.
Jon attacked me, called me a fat lazy bitch. He told me my son was a retard because I hung out with gays. He called Justin a pansy homo for liking to use sex toys in bed. Justin told him that everyone knew he was lying and that he needed to get professional help. Jon threatened to kill Justin if he ever talked to him again. He then told me that he no longer had a sister and that's the last word.
He reported me as a violent stalker on both FB and Google and had my profiles/accounts deleted. They stored my school work, my writing, years of photos of my kid... everything.
I did recover them, but it too a long time.
To this day, my mother laughs it off. My sister worships Jon and he can do no wrong, so she believes every word.
She also believes that she can read, debunk, and discredit her way out of being a schizophrenic.
And now... Karen is defending him again. Venomently. After her entire New Years fiasco.
Maybe they should both be written off. They are both very sick and have basically written me off.
I'm supposed to be getting rid of toxic people and things, right?
